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[quote=Anonymous]My ILs and parents both tend to take, take, take our hospitality while contributing nothing to the days’ worth of meals, cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, chores, entertainment, etc. Even when we keep things relatively simple, their multi-day visits leave DH and me feeling burned out.

Meanwhile, when we visit them, we are contributing a lot to the visit (paying for takeout, cleaning up, even helping with special chores around the house or errands). ILs and parents aren’t even interested in simple ways of helping like taking the kids to the playground for 30 minutes while we clean up after a holiday dinner. We don’t ask for any help, but they don’t offer.

At least my parents don’t expect us to fully clean our guest room AND bathroom before we leave.

It’s just irritating that they expect us to do everything on top of parenting and full-time work, and then we more than help out when we visit them.

I’m tempted to only make Thanksgiving dinner for my ILs and then tell them they can order out whatever they like the night before and the night after, which is what they do when we visit (we pay for the takeout).[/quote]

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