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[quote=Anonymous]Looking for real advice, not the bs about ignoring women or alpha male behaviors or hypergamy.  Those things may be real if you’re trying to up your “game”, but I’m not sure it applies here.

Tl;DR - looking for guidance on the signals given over text.

I met a girl, in person, not internet, we really clicked, met again in person, have had some long exchanges since.  Made plans.  She has discussed a lot with me, and I’ve listened.  I’ll note here that the “relationship” is long distance after our first few encounters, so this may factor in.  She has had some depression and trauma (health related, not physical abuse or such things), but we havent discussed that in detail yet.

So we jived well, started talking plans, about next meetups by text (due to our schedules being a bit off, over time zones), good equal back and forth.   In the last week, it went from that, to a heart (note a heart, not a thumbs up) for much of our back and forth, to nothing.  I’ve only texted twice over multiple days with no reply but a read receipt.   I’m trying to avoid looking needy or overdoing things.

I know I can read into things more than I should.  I know it could mean nothing.  She is smart and independent, so I recognize it also could be because until we’re going to actually meet again, daily banter maybe isn’t her thing….

So what’s the play here?  Does replying with a heart vs a thumbs up not really imply anything?  Does the time investment she made mean anything?

I know this is anonymous internet, nobody has to believe me, but I didn’t make any weird or cringy statements in the last texts.  I work an outward facing job and know how to interact with people and the differences between engaging and being needy, weird, etc.  You don’t have to believe me, but I firmly believe it’s not “me” in terms of some odd behavior or bad statement.

So I mentioned her facing depression and trauma.  I also recognize some work stress she shared.  And I also recognize that every human is different, so what any one person says may be different than what is going on in her life.

But I’m hoping that someone can give some well-reasoned opinions here.  It could be nothing, and she’s super busy.  I do hesitate to call at this point, and I will give her space, not text endlessly.  But I’m hoping for some third party reads and advice on the situation.

Does responding to my comments with hearts vs thumbs up mean much?  Does her giving me the same quality of texting, sometimes more, and also long verbal responses mean anything?

Hoping for guidance.  Thanks for your help![/quote]

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