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[quote=Anonymous]My sister is a senior in high school. I am helping her through the college app process, as I have a pretty good sense of what constitutes a good app, went to a top school, helped my brother go through the process a few years ago, etc.

Her stats are 3.5 unweighted with a couple of Cs on her transcript + a D from freshman year. Course load is 3 APs this school year. She also took 3 APs last year. She took 1 AP each freshman and sophomore year.

My parents are very clueless. The project my experiences on my siblings and always have lofty expectations that they will get into top 10 schools, despite their grades, study patterns, lack of drive for these type of schools.  etc.

I thought I had aligned on a good list of early action schools for my sister

~5 safeties (including MD publics like Towson, St.Mary’s) 
~3 matches (i.e. Marist, Wooster)
~2 reaches (e.g., Union College, College Park)
~2 high reaches (i.e., Macalester)

However, my parents are encouraging her to apply to Michigan and my alma mater (which has a ~5% acceptance rate), so much so that she decided to do ED to my alma mater.

The odds of getting in are 0 and they added these schools to the list like last week.

Fast forward and the essays are not great.

I told my sister it is probably better to submit a few days after the deadline then send something that is complete crap. But that she could send it by midnight yesterday if she wanted; the choice is hers. Today she and my parents are blowing up my phone to help with edits so they can get these apps submitted NOW. Mind you I’m not a college counselor-I have a full time job that is not a 9 to 5.

I am particularly concerned because this is creating a lot of angst for my sister. She called me whining/crying that Michigan/my alma mater’s apps are not submitted.

It’s ridiculous—I’m running out of patience with her/my parents at this point. Even if I do help her with edits, the odds are low, but perhaps a smidge higher than submitting things as.

I just hate that my parents are giving my sister this sense of false hope. I have given my sister the stats, she just doesn’t want to comprehend them for some reason.

Does anyone else have these issues during the college app process?—parents giving unrealistic hopes Or,  AITA for not pulling an all-nighter or something and providing edits ASAP? 
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