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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At 50, I agree it is harder to find friendships.  I am also happier now just holding everyone at arm's length.  I find that once I go deeper with someone, I end up not enjoying their company (they brag too much, talk too much above themselves are two things that irritate me).  So I find I am better off just keeping it light and superficial in meeting new people these days.  Friend-quantainships is what I call them.[/quote]

Same age. I too keep people at arm's length. I adore my friends and enjoy them, but I do not have the level of closeness I had in my 20s nor do I crave it. my husband is my best friend. One of my kids has SN and I do not have the bandwidth anymore to be best friend material for anyone. I cannot handle daily or even weekly texting. I may only be able to get together once every few months. I am willing to be your emergency contact for the school, but no longer willing to be the person you call for a 3am emergency. I hate when people ask me favors and I have to decline and they they are annoyed. I also found I could be a magnet for takers so I am careful.

How do I make friends? Neighborhood for chatting when we run into eachother. Volunteering at kids' school, but before I had kids I had other volunteer work I did. Work. Exercise class. Weightwatchers-when we had in-person meetings. I made a friend a long time ago at a support group for people with the same health issue.[/quote]

DP here. Same (work, gym, volunteering). I am also a magnet for takers, and found that the moms from elementary have fallen away, when they wanted to social engineer their DC, for their own purposes.  No loss to me. I have plenty of long term friends from undergrad and grad school and before, but would love a few down to earth people to get wine or dinner or coffee with. I have seen a few DCUM posts on other subs asking the same (not me). Ideas? [/quote]

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