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[quote=Anonymous]Several months ago, before I knew plans, I bought tickets to a show with my 10yr old daughter, Mom, and Dad. Mom and Dad said this was the only date that worked for them. Our calendar was open.

After buying tickets, DH signed daughter up for soccer (she wasn’t planning to play when we bought tickets). Schedule came out several weeks later and her last game conflicts- happens to be an afternoon game when most weeks are morning games. We attended every other game/practice.

Talked about the scheduling issue several weeks ago when we realized the conflict. DH asked if date could change, I said why this date was the only one that worked (my parents schedule). And I said i thought it was no big deal, she would just miss this game- it was the only one she would miss. DH grumbled a bit- he thought she should go to the game- but also didn’t say anything else then or later. He never said- ok, go to the show but he also never said- change the plans, she needs to attend the game. I knew he wasn’t thrilled about it (he loves soccer and doesn’t care much for theater) but I thought he was ok with it. (Obviously, in hindsight, this is where miscommunication occurred and we both should have been clearer)

But…Now, less than one week to go- DH is mad. Says I should have never bought the tickets, said I should have sold mine, says I should still try to exchange them, etc. He thinks we are letting down the team, teaching daughter bad sportsmanship, etc. I still don’t think it is a big deal to miss the game (it’s rec soccer, she isn’t a star, and she has made it to every other game/practice) and I don’t think there is another solution that allows us to see the show with my parents. Best case- we sell the tickets and get the money back. Worst case- we lose the money.

I’m frustrated that he just now shared how upset he was and had no clue he was quietly stewing about this for weeks because I wasn’t “doing anything” to fix it. I now better understand why he is upset, and had I known all this weeks ago I might have been more open to exploring other options, but I honestly thought we had settled the issue weeks ago. We should have communicated better then, and I think we both realize that now. But how do we settle the issue now?

Thoughts?[/quote]

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