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[quote=Anonymous]I think because of low self-esteem I have a hard time understanding what it is that I can or should want and what are things that I am being frivolous about. I guess when I was a child my parents gaslit me a lot and told me my demands were unreasonable or that I should not be feeling what I am feeling. As an adult, I am constantly unsure and do not trust myself.

Anyway, here I am at 37 years old and I find myself in a marriage where almost everything I had aspired to to wanted appear to be unreasonable?
I had wanted intimacy physical and emotional and I am told I am too needy.
I wanted a single family home with 2.5 kids and I was told first that I am acting like I am "40 years old" for wanting that and now "that I should go marry an investment banker" as my husband cannot afford to buy us a house even with the savings I provide.'
I had wanted lots of children and a full house full of parties and fun and my husband says he does not want to be "a boring suburban dad."

So here we are. Childless. Lower middle class. Forever renters in a tiny apartment.

I am told i need to be thankful and not disrespectful to my husband by asking for more.

I can't even think straight. What did I want that was reasonable and what was too much?[/quote]

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