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[quote=Anonymous]Hi Sister B,

You are doing a great job wording this neutrally and I think you really want to be fair to your sister.

What would you be doing if your sister was in exactly the job she was in before her husband’s business took off? Is it more than you’re doing now? Or is what you’re doing right now really all you can possibly do?

When you have the answer to that question you have a conversation with your sister where you acknowledge— right up front— that she is bearing this burden on behalf of both of you. You tell her how much you appreciate her. You tell (critically) OTHER PEOPLE how much you appreciate her. Do not let yourself get deluded into saying “oh well A has all this time and money” if anyone says anything about her/your mom, the ONLY thing you say is that you are incredibly lucky that your sister has been willing to be so generous with her time and resources.

Because what this sounds like is your sister feels taken for granted. And, it sounds from your post like she might just be right.
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