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[quote=Anonymous]I have a difficult relationship with my SIL.

We have daughters the same age who LOVE each other, so I try to encourage the friendship.  The two children see each other at least once a week.  They are 9 years old.  My DD often complains that she feels like she doesn't have any friends, so I would be loathe to break this friendship up.

Recently my precocious niece has asked me, "do you know what bisexual means?", told my daughter that the world is going to end in 2012, and asked me, "what does it feel like to get high?"  When she asks me these things I tell her, "I don't think that's an appropriate topic of conversation".  Also, she got into my frog tank and took out a frog, which disappeared and is now, I have to suppose, dead.

My niece is extremely bright and intellectually curious so I don't think she's merely being purile.  She has a diagnosis and may be Aspergers.  She has a wonderful imagination and the girls really enjoy pretend play together.  The two share a love of reading.   I have good communication with my daughter so when she asks me about the things she hears from her cousin I am able to discuss it with her.  "Bisexual means able to love people of either gender", "High means people who use drugs (we have discussed the dangers of drugs)", "No the world is not going to end in 2012.  Throughout history people have made predictions about the supposed end of the world and, obviously, have always been wrong" etc.  So I feel confident that my daughter can talk to me about anything she may be getting from her cousin.

On the one hand I wonder if I'm wrong to encourage my daughter to spend so much time with her cousin.  On the other hand I wonder if I should tell the parents about the things my niece is saying.  My SIL will probably get angry if I say anything.  Not sure I want to drop a bomb in the family dynamic.

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