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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you need to get your spouse on board with a plan for you to be more available.  You should go visit them 2x per year as a family like you do, but you should start visiting at *least* 2x a year on your own on top of that. Every parent should be able to take care of their own kids to support their spouses who are in the “sandwich” generation. I try to go back to help my parents every other month. Sometimes it’s just a 2-day visit on my way to or from a work trip. Sometimes I go for longer.

At first I felt so torn about telling my spouse I felt I needed to do this as I felt guilty that it was going to be a big load for him to care for the kids while I traveled, but it’s gone fine. But I also felt tremendous guilt that my siblings were having to do too much and I wasn’t helping much.

And I think my spouse feels better knowing that if his parents get sick and need help, that he’ll have the support at home so that he can be available to his parents as needed, too. [/quote]

NP. You're lucky.  My spouse isn't as accommodating, in part because we have kids that play travel sports and he has work travel and wants to travel to see his family too and on and on.  It's hard. [/quote]

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