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[quote=Anonymous]My sister and I both moved away from dc area to other major metro areas for career reasons. We're both now married with kids.  My parents decided to retire about 2 hours from my sister which is a 12hr drive or 3/4 day air travel (with getting to airport / to their house etc) from me.  They're at the age their health needs are starting to increase.

I'm so sad (and if i'm being honest also jealous) that I can't play the role my sister does in their lives or seeing them very regularly, being able to be where they stay when they need specialist care and minor procedures in at a major medical center, being who they visit all the time for little celebrations like bdays and school plays.

My 3 kids are very young so the 2x a year I visit them is about all we can do right now and I can't easily leave the kids on the fly to be there for a surgery or something.  I think they feel the clock ticking so they do a ton of international travel to get that in while they can and only visit us about 1x a year.  I can't easily move to my sisters city (and she couldn't have moved to my city if they'd picked here).

To me, it'd be an honor to care for them as they age. I know there's also huge difficulties with it, but i'd love to play that role for them instead of the distant daughter offering distant support.  I'm glad they have my sister to support them (truly) but also struggle with feelings about it being her and not me.

No particular question, I know my parents don't owe me anything, and I should just be glad they have a daughter caring for him.  But I'm hoping someone has some words of wisdom about it so i'm not carrying around negative feelings for the next decade or so and instead just appreciating the ways I can be close to them or help them.[/quote]

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