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[quote=Anonymous]I understand and sympathize.  In December 2018, my MIL passed.  My wife was working on her estate (she and her one brother were co-executors).  In July 2019, my father passed.  Fortunately we didn't have to deal with his estate as my mother is still alive and she inherited everything.  But, I did handle my father's funeral, and a lot of the post-death issues, like helping my mother file what needed to be filed to ensure she continued to receive SS benefits and so on.  August 2019, my BIL (wife's oldest brother) came to visit us with the intent to try and move to our area to be near our kids.  He suffered health issues in September while living in our home.  He was in an out of the hospital and rehab from September through December 2019 and he passed on Christmas Day.  And we both worked so hard on all of his health issues for the entire period.  And then all the work that my wife and her brother had done on their mother's estate had to be revisited because one of the beneficiaries had passed.

So, I definitely understand.   I know how overwhelming it feels.  We created a list of things that needed to be done and we sorted by priority and we just did whatever we could to keep our heads above water.  You definitely need to keep your husband in the loop on this.  Even though he's stressed as well, you need to tackle this as a team.  Even if he doesn't nothing but provide emotional support, you are stronger as a team than you are as individuals.  People have so much more capacity to help when they are doing it for their loved ones.  Also, we found that there were times that it was better to swap and I took care of details for her and she took care of details for me.  But we made decisions as a team about what we had to do and who was going to do what.  It was much better as a team.[/quote]

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