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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let me start off by saying that I love my husband very much. We have been together almost half my life and he is a wonderful father and husband. I know nobody has perfect relationships and that you always have to take the good with the bad etc…

Although we have, what I would consider an “active” sex life-I have told him multiple times that there are things I want to do. Now these aren’t even taboo or crazy things. These are literally things that most other people would consider regular and normal. But he has basically straight out refused even though he has told me he did these things in previous relationships (as did I).  This just keeps upsetting me more and more and my dilemma is this:

1.   [b]I don’t  feel like I should have to give up what I want.[/b] We only get this one life. I want to enjoy it to its absolute fullest. 
2.  I don’t feel like anybody should be manipulated/ convinced to do something sexually they don’t want to do. I wouldn’t want someone doing that to me either.

So do I just plan on not having what I want sexually for the rest of my life? That just seems so depressing.  Although I feel like we have a strong marriage-this is a big deal to me and I just feel like I can’t get over it. I do have a therapist and I do talk about it with them.

Thoughts?[/quote]

The bolded is literally the entire basis of marriage. Not saying what your husband should or shouldn't do, but that attitude isn't compatible with a lifetime commitment to another person.[/quote]

It's a two way street though.

Not OP[/quote]

If it's so important, figure it out during vetting. Otherwise, deal with it. You can't get everything, and it sounds like things are pretty good otherwise.[/quote]

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