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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, I would give him more consequences.  He needs to know that is not acceptable to me (which he should have known already). Hitting is serious and taunting doesn’t make this a master of self-defense.

You need to sit him down and have a long talk with him about when hitting someone isn’t okay (for example, being taunted), and the very isolated exceptions (if someone is hurting him and he has to get away, or a stranger is taking him away which means they intend to hurt him).  Discuss options he could have used today instead of hitting.  Help him pick a good solution and roll-play it.

Then punish.  At a minimum, I would have taken away all privileges tonight (TV, dessert, etc.). Depending on his literacy skills, I might have had him write lines if he was up to it (something simple like “Do not hit.”, and probably not very many times, because he’s probably slow.). Otherwise, I’d probably give him a time-out to reflect on his bad choices so he would remember to make better choices next time.).  This is assuming he seems to be learning the lesson.  If he’s being defiant, you might need to suspend a privilege for longer.

Make it clear to him that you expect him to remember this lesson, but if there are future problems, then the punishment will be harsher (longer loss of privilege, loss of allowance, more lines, chores, etc.). You don’t want any more unpleasantness, but you’ll make him however miserable you need to for him to remember that he doesn’t want to hit someone other than when necessary to prevent physical harm to himself, because whatever positive he might get from it in the moment will be significantly outweighed by the negative he’ll get later from you.[/quote]

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