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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]hello. ds is having a very hard time at college. he is about four hours away from home. his difficulties seems to be combination of rigor of the academics and having to live on his own. even though college is not full-fledged "adulting," taking care of himself while also taking classes seems to be overwhelming him. [b]we are looking into all kinds of supports and adjustments so that he can be successful.[/b] thankfully, his issues are not social. he has made friends and he likes the overall atmosphere of the school. but even after we do make some supportive changes, it may not be enough. this kind of college may not be right for him at this time.

i'd be interested in hearing how things went for your child who left their residential college and returned home.

did they work full-time? did they go to community college? did they live at home? did they opt to leave themselves or were they more or less forced to because of academic probation?

any and all insights about what to expect if this unfolds for us would be helpful.

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I would not pull him out of school but would definitely apply to a school that might be a better fit just in case for next year.. This could have been my brother and he wound up sitting at home two years when it would have been better to finish the year and then switch.  He became horribly depressed and embarrassed.

I remember at my school some people used a laundry service and I would look into that. At the time, it seemed a luxury but reflecting back my brother could not manage laundry.  I would also look at tutoring option and there may even be something on campus. My brother would have loved meeting with someone daily to keep him accountable and help. Since he is happy socially this is huge and a great thing celebrate this. Get him also an executive function consultant and again there may be someone in that role at school. This is not rare esp for boys so please do not stress. FYIW my brother after his two years home finished college and two masters and has been married for 25 years. It is a marathon not a sprint ie just work with your son and love him through this.
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