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[quote=Anonymous]I think you may be panicking... I assume this is an academic issue because you mention probation? Seems he is fine socially, maybe even too social for your tastes?

I have to tell you that this is a transition and he has to figure it out. Unless he has some mental health issues, he needs to stay and figure it out. There will be nothing to gain by bringing him home and throwing him into community college, he will always see himself as a failure.

This happened to my daughter, she was a high performing, top student in HS. got to her rigorous college as a pre-med student and absolutely spiraled. First semester was not terrible, 3.24, but second semester was a 2.5. I know this is not academic probation level, but it was a big shock to all of us, most of hall her. I'll never forget her calling me saying, "I have never gotten a C before and now I'm thankful to get a C". Problem was wrong major. Did not play to her strengths. Disappointing for sure but the facts were laid bare and she knew she had to make a change. She came home after freshman year with a sub 3.0 GPA and we actually took her to be evaluated for ADHD since she simply could not seem to organzie herself to meet deadlines and do the work.  Low and behold, yes she has previously undiagnosed ADHD that no one would have ever even thought before she went to college. The lack of structure was a killer for her. HS was a breeze because of the structure and because she was living and home, she never had any issues at all. Put her in college and the wheels came off.

She dreaded going back sophmore year honestly, but living in an apartment setting was much better for her. Having her own private space really did allow for more organization and adderal helped enormously. She has clawed her way back up to a 3.4 and still going up now as a junior. Straight As since freshman year.

So net net, look at ALl alternates to making him leave. One things my DD is very proud of is that SHE turned it around. She did it. We didnt give up on her, she didn't give up, and now she will graduate next year and know that she is capable.[/quote]

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