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[quote=Anonymous]Oh I go through stuff like this with my father in law allllllll the time. He’s just cheap, and thinks things should cost what they cost 50 years ago.

He wanted to throw our rehearsal dinner. We asked for a budget. He came back with $1000. Mind you, bridal party, spouses, parents, siblings, and grandparents? 50 people. Our wedding planner told us for that amount of money, we could have pizza  and beer. We went back and told him that. He ended up happily paying for a traditional rehearsal dinner (just like in your case, he has tons of money). He’s very generous he just has no sense of the reality of what things cost.

How is your husband’s relationship with them? If it’s very good (as all the parent relationships are in our family), he could have gone back to them and said something like “we got your card and check! Thank you so much, we’re so thrilled you want to help us get ready for the baby. Did want to let you know that, unfortunately, baby gear has gotten more expensive, so the stroller we had our eye on will cost a bit more than that, but we’re happy to pay for the rest.” Or something similar. Breezy, give them an easy out, lots of gratitude. But it would give them a chance to say “oh! Really? How much?” And in our case, he would have had insane shock but absolutely paid the full amount. And it’s honestly what he would want in this case. If it was my FIL, he’d be assuming a stroller cost $60 and he just gave you this over the tip generous gift, which is what he WANTS to do.

But, the ship has sailed. It would be TOTALLY obnoxious to say anything at this point. Shrug, be glad they are loving and involved, and move on. [/quote]

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