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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Couples absolutely rub off on each other. My childhood friend married a douche who is super competitive, superficial and mean, and she’s become competitive and has no empathy for anyone! [/quote]

Sometimes I wonder if maybe those behaviors were there under the surface all along. Because why would someone be attracted to someone who is super competitive, superficial, and mean, if they don't share those traits to some degree? Like I date men like that before I got married and never made it more than a few dates before I realized they were just not for me. That's about how long it took for those traits to emerge.

So when friends of mine have ended up with men like that, part of me wonders it some part of them was always like that, but they are just skilled at covering it up and acting nice on the surface. And then when they start behaving like their spouse, it's really their true self coming out.

I used to have a colleague who was very nasty and mean and she told me once that she always kind of likes it when she meets someone who is a bit of a jerk because she thinks "ah, a kindred spirit." It actually explained a lot to me about certain dynamics I've encountered, both at work and socially. Misery definitely loves company.[/quote]

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