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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like we are getting there.  I can’t live with resentment, I can’t live with my husband as a roommate, I’m not wired that way and I would just get divorced.

Our marriage had a lot of major problems, as in dealbreakers for most people.  Things had deteriorated to the point where our fights were terrible, we were sleeping in separate rooms, sexless, etc.

You have to let a lot go.  A LOT.  You have to forgive.  You go on awkward dates and think “I could be spending this time dating someone hotter/funnier/smarter.”  You start having sex again, and it’s not always fantastic, but it’s passable.

You have to accept that if you stay, things may deteriorate again, and by the time you finally decide that enough is enough you will have spent a lot more time making this failing relationship work, and you might never get into another romantic relationship again.  That’s a risk.  I decided any time with 100% custody of my kids is not wasted time.

And somehow, over time, you get invested again, you feel safe again, you feel like it’s not stupid to stay.[/quote]

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