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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH has a “step” grandmother, the woman who very late in life married his grandfather. She was a great-grandmother of sorts to our DC. We would see her at Christmas and a handful of times throughout the year. Very nice woman, though a little overwhelming at times.

When DH grandfather passed away, DH sort of fell out of communication with her, but I would keep contact with cards and phone calls, which I hated! She is the type of woman who wants to talk for HOURS. During one Christmas time call, after an hour, one of my kids dropped a whole gingerbread house and I had to end the call. A half-hour later she called and wanted to resume the call like we hadn’t just talked for an hour! She’s so incredibly hard to get off the phone.

I had a lot going on this summer and during another particularly long, stressful call, and after DH had promised her a dinner which he never executed, I decided to drop the ball. I can no longer do phone calls with her. And I feel awful.

Why do I feel awful? DH doesn’t feel awful! If we were divorced, I wouldn’t feel awful. I own it. Or do I? I have no problem sending cards, picture updates, nor do I have problem visiting when DH plans it. But I can not spend hours on phone calls. I get stressed in anticipation and stressed during. I’m done. So why do I feel so bad, like I’m doing something wrong?[/quote]

I'm usually one to advocate boundaries. But, she's nice, lonely, old woman who loves you. I don't see why you cannot call her and just be more forceful with her "Well, Doris, I really have to go. I'll give you a call at XXX." Repeat and get more brief as you need to. You're going to make her more lonely just b/c you can't do that?[/quote]

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