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[quote=Anonymous] They detach emotionally and manage the physical health and practicalities of their parent's final years, without accepting the responsibility of caring for their emotional needs. This is what my husband did. He had lots of practice because his father had been bipolar his whole life. I have a distant albeit loving relationship with my controlling and hypercritical mother. When the time comes, I know I won't feel any guilt over not spending enough time with them, or whatever your parent complains about... because I decided in my teens that my mother's mental anguish was her own concern, not mine. DETACH. You are allowed to not spend your weekends there. You can choose not to visit AT ALL. Experiment and decide what's a good frequency and length of visit. You can try to persuade this person to consult a doctor to assess cognitive function and which dementia is developing. Meds could help.[/quote]
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