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[quote=Anonymous]You feel awful because you are empathetic - and you can probably imagine being in her position, and that is scary, too.

We have an old family friend whose phone calls I avoided for years, because of just what you're saying - they'd go on forever. She died unexpectedly a couple of years ago, right at the start of COVID, and I regretted so much not having made more time to talk to her.

I am NOT saying this to criticize or guilt you - but I think your feelings are telling you something. You don't feel good about cutting her off altogether - so can you, like PP suggested, schedule a half-hour call once a month? Or whatever length, at whatever frequency you can manage?

Could you call while you're on a drive, for example - and then get off when you get out of the car?

If you can't, then yes - own your decision, as you're doing. You are having a very human reaction to someone else, who is part of your extended family, having emotional and social needs that aren't being met.[/quote]

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