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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What has he done after school since first grade? The time to start new thing sis young while they are into things and new experiences and want to please. [b]By 13 they don't want to do anything they aren't already good at.[/b] [/quote]

Not always true, but mostly true. And it's hard to even persuade some 13 year olds to continue doing what they're already good at! 
I just feel like a top-level diplomat: always persuading, cajoling, quid pro quo-ing, helping their adolescent brains project themselves into the future (a few years from now, vs. a week from now)...

OP, you need to identify the source of his refusal. If it's anxiety, what does he fear? Being too busy and not having downtime? Having to navigate a different social scene? Not being the best one, or failing, because he's new? Drill down, identify the root cause, present it to him, and say that exposure is the best management tool he has, and he needs to try something so he can build resilience. Don't say it's non-negotiable, but present it to him in that way. He has to choose the least objectionable, according to his lights. [/quote]

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