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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD has had this person on her gymnastics team before. One girl mellowed out and became a close friend. Once they started competitions it provided an external ranking so they girls dropped comparisons within practice. During comp season, the most braggiest trash-talking girl quit after the first meet. After that experience, we’ve stuck to the policy of avoiding the braggy kids who are truly awful and have braggy parents, and trying to give space to the ones with nice parents in the hopes that they evolve. A few of the annoying girls are still around but everyone steers clear of them.

I have noticed that the bragging ramps up in the time before competition season and when new girls join the group in summer. I think it’s how some people manage insecurity or try to create/maintain a pecking order that makes them feel good. The moms are the worst at doing this. I read a lot if I’m early to gym pickup because I don’t need to engage with crazies who have sat there for 4 hours scrutinizing children and wanting to gossip about it and brag.

I imagine that some of this will lessen for your DD once choreography is fully learned and performances/competitions/showcases are happening- it sounds like [b]this might be competitive dance, which is probably even grosser than gymnastics.[/b][/quote]

OP here, it is competitive dance. We honestly have had a really positive experience minus this one kid and a couple annoying moms. They are through choreography and have had their placements for awhile, so I thought it would die down, but it really hasn't. I think what sparked it is this girl didn't get as desirable of routine placements and she and her mom have had a chip on their shoulder ever since. DD and this girl are both decent dancers, they just have different strengths. So this girl gets onto my DD during classes she's not as strong in, but my DD knows better than to act like that in classes where she is the stronger one.

I do try to avoid the mom in the lobby, though it's awkward as I've known her for years. If she does sit next to me, I try to avoid the topic of dance at all costs. The mom is JUST like the daughter, it's uncanny. It's funny though, because the mom embellishes stories ("they thought Larla was so awesome at XYZ, they wanted to move her up a level") and then the kid says "my mom asked if I could move up a level" so it's no wonder where she gets it from.

Maybe "ruining" dance is too strong of a phrase, but DD is really hurt that someone she considered a friend is being unkind to her and others. I told her to say "Larla, that's unkind to say that and I would never say that to a friend" or something along those lines. Or move. Though she says the girl follows her if she moves. I told her if the girl doesn't stop following her, to go to the teacher and ask where she can stand to get space. [/quote]

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