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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you stop at one or go on to have another? How did you get over the fear and trauma from your first? Was there a certain age gap that you think helped? [/quote]

At 5, almost 6 years post, we are just now considering having another but every time we talk about it, I worry about having a similar experience to my first and firmly believe my marriage would not survive. CMPI baby, bottle avoidance, lip and tongue tie, colic, other food allergies discovered once solids were started, weekly PT for one year, reflux meds until 13months, late teether so we went from reflux improving straight into teething, never slept more than 4 hours at once (although he met his total sleep needs over the course of the day), I had PF issues plus PPA. 
At 2 things got way better but then COVID happened and that was its own hell. At 4, things started improving for us personally and financially and we just did not want to rock the boat. FF another 1-1.5 years, he still doesn't sleep through the night every night. He has low sleep needs. High energy needs, etc. He is loving and kind and makes friends easily and is smart but it is all cylinders for 13 hours a day. 
Honestly, when you've had a difficult pregnancy or baby or marriage or whatever, when you try again you roll the dice and hope you get lucky. And if you aren't ready for the outcome to not be better then IMO the decision is made. 
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