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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would you need to see him “alone”?

Funny how you say “we” never see him alone. So you and DH are a package deal, and that’s fine, but son needs to visit “alone”?

How very interesting.[/quote]

I don't think it's that weird for mom and dad to want to see their son together. [/quote]
Nope, it’s not. Just as it’s not weird for the son to see only one of his parents separately sometimes.  But offering an expensive, far into the future treat to their son — with the expectation that he push aside his committed relationship to get it is one that will likely have long term consequences on multiple levels.

It sounds as though the parents did not include the son, let alone the couple in their planning process at all.  So the son goes alone— possibly damaging relationships with his partner AND with his parents; the couple use time and money that they might not have to spare for something that they had zero voice in planning; or the parents offer the trip to the couple as a gift, rather than press the idea of a “family” vacation—where who is and ISN’T a member of the family gets highlighted.

I would either do the expensive trip with my spouse, or, if money is an issue, including the couple in planning something different that pleases everyone. [/quote]

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