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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Echo others comments about stay/go.

As for your original question, yes. Surprisingly. I am newly divorced and relocated to an affluent suburb. Part of the reason I chose the area was because it is a very progressive area with great diversity, but I have realized that that diversity does not extend to the makeup of different types of families. My Kindergarten student is the only one in a class of 20 students with a single parent. Same goes for her classmates at ballet and karate.[/quote]

Thank you for answering here. My area is also very progressive and diverse but lacks diversity in types of families- I didn’t realize it until I was considering stepping into this decision. There is a big focus on couples and heteronormative adult roles that we’ve already been a bit on the outside of because DH refuses to socialize and has been a loner since we had our child. It is frightening to imagine being further on the outside of the community, but my finances and lack of support structure will not make a move a good choice right now. My Dd is already the sole only child in her class so I’m really conscious of the fact that she has no peer support at home and already feels different at school.

Do you know about the families from karate or ballet because your DD noticed or something else? [/quote]

I really don’t think people are paying that much attention. My daughter’s best friend of 6 plus years have parents that were never married or together for particularly long (from what I can tell). Her other friend since preschool apparently has parents that divorced. I don’t even know what year they divorced. My daughter just randomly mentioned “Larla will be at her dad’s house” earlier this school year. Our neighbor down the street divorced and no one cares.

And generally, we are in a place where everyone is heterosexual and married. These three instances are outliers, but you get more and more of them. These kids are in middle school now. I would say maybe you will be the “first”, but you won’t be the last.

Now, are logistics a pain as a single mom. Yes, I’m sure they are. Logistics are already a pain for us with two working parents. School, church, etc still think that there is a freaking stay at home mom.[/quote]

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