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[quote=Anonymous]I have found that for my kid (who sounds similar -- has always had a ton of trouble with transitions plus gets obsessive about enjoyable activities and wants to do them forever and ever) it helps to schedule certain activities less often but for longer. So like do the YouTube video thing, but don't keep it to 20 minutes. Let it go on longer. Like what do you think might happen if you did it for an hour? In my experience, letting these things play themselves out does eventually lead to my kid choosing to stop. When you try to put tight time limits on things, it makes them feel panicky and that makes those transitions so much worse. Do it on a rainy afternoon when you don't have something else scheduled.

If you really only have 20 minutes, maybe don't do a specific activity and instead just commit to chilling out and enjoying her company. Letting her take the lead. My go-to is to put on our playlist that we all throw our favorite songs of the moment onto, which tends to put everyone in a good mood pretty quickly. Then we just hang out. I'll lie on her bed and just watch her play or we'll hang out on the couch and talk and there' son agenda. It's nice. Sometimes I'll pull out some paper and markers and start drawing and she might join in, but it's not like "let's do art" it's just relaxing and passing the time without any particular goal.

I think from her perspective, trying to do specific activities for 20 minute increments is probably brutal because if you are someone who takes a bit of time to settle in activity, stopping at 20 minutes will feel like you literally just started.[/quote]

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