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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m 39 and it’s the same w my parents. They have no emotional depth. They love me and they always provided for my physical needs but they didn’t give me much emotional support and I didn’t really realize that until I had my own kids. I’ve tried to have a deeper connection with my parents now as an adult but I don’t think it’s really possible. They just aren’t capable of emotionally supporting me.

I agree w PP’s advice to model the behavior you want to see, keep validating your own child’s emotions and talking about emotions w your kid, and limit time w your parents if it’s too draining for you. I have also found it helpful to form deeper relationships with others (my spouse, a few close friends, my siblings, my MIL, my best friend’s mom). Nothing replaces what I’m lacking from my own parents but I do have deeper ties to others than I probably would otherwise partially as a result of not getting that from my parents.[/quote]
OP here. Thank you for this advice. I'm very open with my husband (that took a long time for me) and I've been really trying with some of my close friends. I really do find it difficult to share, since so much of my life was about keeping my emotions to myself. A lot of the time, I just feel like I'm complaining about trivial things.[/quote]

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