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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is already a micromanager and we are in marital therapy for it.  Put the knives in the drawer pointing down, crush the garlic to peel it, remember to pick the vegetables in the garden more often, etc.  But it is not just small things, it’s everything.  What it has led to is me being very distanced because when we are together, it feels like just a matter of time before I get some type of instruction/criticism.  And I read Gotteman about the difference between a criticism and a complaint, and i will tell you that after a while, I am touchy even about complaints.  There is no threshold for bringing things up and I get resentful because I don’t do the same to him. It could be that we share many household tasks.  I am the primary wage earner so we tend to split the household chores. It feels like walking around your house and then getting hit with a tennis ball.  Doesn’t hurt much but it is unpleasant and leads to a low level anxiety when I am around him.

There is a balance where he needs to actually reduce his criticisms and then in turn, I need to not take them personally.  But I would say they don’t get better, they get worse so see if you can turn the tide.  BTW - one marital therapist flagged obsessive personality disorder, but since he wouldn’t acknowledge it, he insisted we change providers.  [/quote]

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