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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop defining yourself as a “good” or “bad” daughter. Just stop.

Instead, how about defining yourself as a healthy person who sets boundaries for herself and doesn’t allow herself to be manipulated by an obviously manipulative person. [/quote]

This. So this.

I cringe when some people tell posters "you are a good daughter" as they put up with abusive behavior. Do not reinforce bad behavior. Remain calm. Do not give in. You can't control her, but you can set limits on what you will tolerate.[/quote]

If she kills herself, she kills herself and there is nothing you can do about it. That's a devastating fact but it's true. Separating yourself from her choices she makes out of her own free will doesn't make you a bad daughter. This is hard but with time, it'll get easier. Looking back now, the amount energy and time I spent worrying about my mom and trying to help her is bananas. I thought I owed her that or that I was a bad person if I didn't help someone in need. But it did nobody any good. Life went on just the same for both of us after I stopped (except that I finally was free of a burden that should never have been mine to carry).

Also, she is highly unlikely to actually kill herself. The vast majority of people, women especially, with suicidal ideation don't go through with it. [/quote]

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