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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Over the past year or two my husband has been ramping up micromanaging. Not major decisions— he seems to like to leave those to help (I guess so if things go bad it all my fault)- but smaller stuff like how I clean— “don’t use this, use that” to wipe the table. Or I should just vacuum that area with a Dustbuster, not dustpan. Or what to give the kids for snack. I bought them granola bars and he says just give them an apple but he of course, has bought them snacks. Another example—I told the kids to move a puzzle they were working on and while doing so, it slipped off the board. My husband declared afterward I should have just carried it for them (um, he’s the first one to tell them to clean up their messes).

I have plenty more examples of this sort of stuff that’s just downright irritating. Lots of this seems small but it’s built up over time. I’ve told him to go and do yourself, snd in response, he gets snide. Long term, this isn’t going to last and I can see stuff like this leading towards separation. It’s such an unpleasant way to live, all of the unpredictable criticisms. [/quote]

If he's criticizing how your are doing something like vacuuming, wiping the table, etc., stop immediately and hand him the vacuum or towel. Don't say a word, just stop.

Kid's snacks - "You're perfectly free to go to the grocery store and choose something else" and then move on. The puzzle thing - ask him with a straight face if he's invented a time machine? When he says, what or no, tell him that his narration is not helpful and can he cut it out please.

You should also have a conversation about him being nitpicky and see what he says.[/quote]

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