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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hope this is fake as this is bizarre advice.[/quote]

OP. Not fake at all. I also have a lot of relevant expertise (not in parenting but development). I was floored when she said this and I disagreed with her, but she persisted in saying it was the best option (the bathroom). She said going to room is not a punishment, but I disagree as my child feels bad to be sent away and does feel guilty about not meeting expectations.

I don't expect my child to "obey", but I do want them to listen and comply with reasonable requests, and I do agree there should be consequences if they don't. I agree consistency is very important, but rigidity can be bad and can make child feel parent is arbitrary and unfair. I also agree that repeated warnings/threats is not effective, but consequences should be reasonable. The consequence should make the child reflect on how they could do better rather than making them feel afraid, etc.

I also think discussion/reasoning is not only acceptable but welcome, as I want my child to think about things and feel comfortable talking to me. There may be cases where child was misunderstood and it's not right to ignore their thoughts/feelings and won't help them develop into a high functioning adult.

That said, I recognize my views are based on what I want for my child and my cultural background. Hence my curiosity about others reactions.

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