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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Part of the “progressive decline” is when people start using wheelchairs and soon cannot get anywhere without one, followed not long after by needing help with transfers, etc.

[b]“Someone has to be next to him.”  No they don’t. [/b]He probably wishes they’d leave him alone. He knows he might fall.  Offer options. Let him make his own choices. [/quote]

They actually do.

Recently, my dad decided to use his cane instead of the portable wheelchair when mom took them to Walmart. I was at work and didn't know he was going to do that. Yep, he ended up on the floor of Walmart. I was an hour away at work. We have very nice EMT's where we live, whom we see regularly because dad doesn't 'want' to use a wheelchair.

BTW, progressive decline isn't caused by using a wheelchair-he needs a wheelchair [i]because [/i]he has progressive decline.[/quote]

It’s really both, that’s what makes it so tough for everyone.

It’s stressful, you have to find a way to detach a little bit and accept that he’s still in charge of his own life and may end up with a broken hip. That’s not your fault. If he starts using a wheel chair, he might end up with a broken hip from transferring. Bad stuff is going to happen, you’re going to have to roll with it a bit more. [/quote]

Ok, I'll call you to come pick him up off the ground. [/quote]

I understand that it’s stressful but we’re just trying to give you perspective as people who have been there. Your dad using a wheel chair does not solve this problem. It just moves you on to new problems.

To be perfectly frank, if you’re going to end up on the floor, Walmart is a pretty good place for it to happen. Count your blessings. And count your blessings that even though we live in a country with an abysmal health care system, you can pretty much rely on emergency response and be mostly protected from bankrupting bills for it.

We’re trying to tell you that we know how horrible and stressful it is but the wheelchair refusal is not causing that. You’re in Horrible And Stressful Land now and the wheelchair battle is just the airport arrival lounge. You have to adjust your sense of crisis if you want to survive. [/quote]

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