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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you know for sure she doesn't want to do this anymore? I ask because being able to maintain relationship and responsibility norms is sometimes what ill/recovering people want.  It gives them a sense of normalcy, purpose, and inclusion.

However, if she's going beyond her capabilities at this time, then I agree with PP that finding help for you dad makes sense.  Local senior centers often have these resources and some hospitals/health centers have social workers who can be a good resource.[/quote]

She has severe mobility issues and just can’t do all the things. I certainly hope we can get her back to close to 100%, but I also think it is unrealistic.

She is going to need more help than what he is use to providing and he has already proven to be unreliable emotionally ([b]literally screaming at her before a specialist appointment when she needed help getting dressed - this is 100% a result of him not ever having the caregiver role, being overwhelmed and having ZERO coping skills).

She takes it a bit more in stride than I do. I want her to focus on getting better, not managing his anxiety and needs. Being close to 40, I have cannot relate to his absolute lack of interest in learning new things (and this isn’t just because he is old, he never sought out learning basic skills). [/b]

I am going to look into our local centers. Even if I can get someone else to talk to him (maybe mention his anxiety to the doctor or get him to carry a notebook to write his questions for her rather than blowing up everyone’s phones). [/quote]

This is a typical autistic profile, OP. Just FYI. It's going to be hard for him to adjust. I would hire a caregiver for your mother.[/quote]

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