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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you know for sure she doesn't want to do this anymore? I ask because being able to maintain relationship and responsibility norms is sometimes what ill/recovering people want.  It gives them a sense of normalcy, purpose, and inclusion.

However, if she's going beyond her capabilities at this time, then I agree with PP that finding help for you dad makes sense.  Local senior centers often have these resources and some hospitals/health centers have social workers who can be a good resource.[/quote]

She has severe mobility issues and just can’t do all the things. I certainly hope we can get her back to close to 100%, but I also think it is unrealistic.

She is going to need more help than what he is use to providing and he has already proven to be unreliable emotionally (literally screaming at her before a specialist appointment when she needed help getting dressed - this is 100% a result of him not ever having the caregiver role, being overwhelmed and having ZERO coping skills).

She takes it a bit more in stride than I do. I want her to focus on getting better, not managing his anxiety and needs. Being close to 40, I have cannot relate to his absolute lack of interest in learning new things (and this isn’t just because he is old, he never sought out learning basic skills).

I am going to look into our local centers. Even if I can get someone else to talk to him (maybe mention his anxiety to the doctor or get him to carry a notebook to write his questions for her rather than blowing up everyone’s phones). [/quote]

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