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[quote=Anonymous]Just spoke to DS, who just started his first year of college.

It is clear from our weekly calls that he hasn’t found a groove yet. He doesn’t love his classes, they are mostly intro classes and taught lecture style which isn’t getting him engaged. He says his roommate is nice but that doesn’t seem to be turning into a friendship. Apparently no one on his hall seems to socialize.

He has met some kids he likes, but they also don’t seem to be turning into regular friendships. He has tried a few clubs and is going to the weekly meetings, but it isn’t turning into friendships. I asked about intramurals, and he said you need to sign up with a group and he doesn’t have anyone to ask (nor was asked).

He said he eats lunch alone most days, gets it from a to go place on campus vs the dining halls. I asked if he is eating dinner with his roommate or anyone, and it sounds like sometimes yes, sometimes no. He said he’ll text people to see who is getting dinner and will join if it works out, but it doesn’t sound like others are checking in with him for meals.

He told us tonight that on the two days of the week when he only has one class, he said it is especially lonely bc he’ll basically go all day without seeing anyone. My heart broke. I suggested - study at the library, check in with people for meals, etc, but he brushed me off.

He has always been shy and has had trouble connecting with peers. He and we hoped college would be a fresh start, but so far much of them same.

I’d appreciate any advice. I do realize it is only 5 weeks into the school year. He is at a medium sized private college, not a huge university.  [/quote]

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