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[quote=Anonymous]OP here - problem is that they are anxious kids and the more stressed that they get the more they want to eat. They never sneaked food before. It started around him cutting way back on the time with them and really checking out during it.

Pointing out that she is fat is not likely to build DD's self esteem. Her camp has noticed that both kids are more withdrawn this year, one teacher said they hold themselves back from the other kids a bit.

Re: activity - I've signed them up for swimming and for gymnastics camp and am trying to get them active every day. It's hard for them to refuse the junk b/c they know that he wants them to eat it. On some level they get that him being more disconnected and spending way less time overall goes with the handfuls of costume jewelry, they have both said things along the lines of having "mixed up" feelings about the stuff he has been buying. I've been neutral or admiring of the bling but I notice it doesn't get worn, which is different for them.

I think I'll just keep talking about healthy eating and how we all have to make healthy choices whereever we are, that way it's not so specific about their dad, but I can bring up playdates, etc, per PP.

STBX has always used them to meet his needs and has been pretty indifferent to what was good for them. This is a huge escalation though. He never seems to link cause and effect and I swear, it's like the ped saying milk or water triggered the soda. One DD had a cavity in the spring and he was b&*ching about dental bills, to turn around and start in with candy and soda a few weekds later makes no sense.

It all sucks, if we can't be on the same page about basic stuff like this with the ped involved it is going to be a very long 15 years. It's like he wants to just check out and pacify them with whatever gives instant gratification to make the time easier for him. Need to think if I can manipulate things so that won't be food.  [/quote]

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