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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]My DH is a really nice guy[/b]. I love him and for the most part he is nice, easy going, etc. He never ever yells or says anything nasty. To me those a positive points b/c I know a lot of DH's who yell and are controlling. But my DH DOES NOTHING. I ask him clean off the deck and he says "OK, I will" and then 2 days later he has done nothing. I keep asking (nicely) and then a week goes by. 2 weeks. Nothing. He just says "I will get to it." But he never does. He is always absorbed in watching movies, or on is iPad. Our house needs SO MUCH work and he doesn't think so and makes NO effort to improve anything. he is not much of a handyman, but scoffs at me if I suggest we hire a someone to do some work. I get estimates, but he refuses to pay.

Please don't suggest therapy b/c he "does not believe in therapy" and refuses to go. Apparently his whole family is against therapy. They had a family member who went to therapy and they claim that he "got worse" from the therapy.

Anyway, I end up DOING everything around the house -- cleaning, cooking for me and my daughter (I don't cook for DH), picking up, washing and cleaning dogs, walking dogs, watering plants, doing laundry, dishes, etc. I do so much! He does little to nothing. How can I get him to help? We have had MANY sit downs and discussions where I have explained I need him to be a co-parent, a partner in life and to help 50/50. He says he understands but then does nothing to change. He says he will change, he agrees but then there is no action and he continues to watch movies and iPad.

[b]Please help me motivate my DH to want to help[/b], or want to fix the house, or clean something!! I work full time, take care of our DD and the entire house. What do I do???? I am not the kind of person who can just let the house go, like let dishes pile up, or let the trash stink just to show him I am not going to do everything. First of all, he doesn't care if the house is a mess, I think he prefers it, actually. [/quote]

No, he isn't a nice guy/  Nice guys help their wives because their wives work damn hard as it is.

Motivate him?  Huh?  Maybe we can have him watch Chris Farley talking about living in a van down by the river.  Tell him to grow up and stop behaving like an eighteen year old.[/quote]

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