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[quote=Anonymous]I am in the process of divorce. Both of my young girls are pretty anxious by nature and they are very stressed out. Their Dad has them 2 evenings per week and one day on the weekend. We've always been a family that ate out a fair amount but their weight was stable. We had desserts and treats mainly after dinner on weekends. Recently they have gained a lot of weight. At their recent annual, that we both attended, the ped expressed concern about their weight and said that we should aim to stabilize it so the kids could grow into it. One DD has been teased by peers and she got teary telling the ped about it.

Since then the kids have visibly gotten bigger. They are also coming home from visits with lots of junky toys and jewelry. Not sure why the change in how he handles their time, we have been separated for a year. It turns out he has been giving them candy, ice cream and several cups of soda when he sees them. They had not had soda prior to the ped visit.

I'm not sure that talking about it is going to help, he is not the most stable person and when he feels that rules are being imposed he tends to rebel. I think that may be why he added soda to the mix after the ped said they should be drinking water or milk. I'm making sure we eat healthy and are active the rest of the time. I've also stopped buying the weekend treats before the weekends, they were starting to sneak food, which is also new. The 3 of us have started also started family therapy to help deal with their anxiety. DD did not want to go to the pool today and several pairs of shorts bought in June didn't fit when she went to get dressed this morning. Has anyone else dealt with this? He can't be the only one who wants that hit of "feel good" of giving them whatever they want. I'm sure that there is an element of wanting to annoy me too. Advice?  [/quote]

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