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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Chronic anxiety which I did not take as seriously as I should have.

Poor executive functioning, which I thought was a school-related problem but is actually a problem that affects people in all areas of life.

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where are they now?  were you able to move past this?[/quote]

They eventually made it into college and are in low-EF demand state government jobs that are fine but nothing very exciting. Finally getting them to accept a trial run of anxiety meds helped a lot. Me opening my eyes to the seriousness of their EF deficiencies and getting an EF coach helped. I wish I had intervened on EF stuff much younger, like in elementary school. I regret that I just didn't grasp it. They're both smart in certain ways, but adult life is really really hard without adequate EF.

SPACE protocol helped. Me not paying for things helped-- I finally had to bite the bullet and ratchet down our lifestyle at home dramatically. Flip phones for everyone. No internet, no cable. No desserts. No fancy food, no restaurants. No extras at all. It was hard for me but I stayed the course and told them over and over that they could get jobs and buy things for themselves. I know it sounds kind of retrograde, but in combination with SPACE guidance and anxiety meds and EF support, it helped.[/quote]
What is the SPACE protocol?[/quote]

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