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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been thin for most of my life but I am petite and short. I have always been invisible even when I was in my twenties. I recall walking into a Blue Mercury store with my blonde white friend this one time and the sales associate completely ignored me and started talking to my friend. She was recommending products and also did her makeup while I stood by and looked on. She didn’t even acknowledge me or ask if I wanted my makeup done or what makeup I was interested in.

In groups of women the white women are noticed by men, even if they are chubbier than me.

Unless you are a young white woman, being a minority woman means living in invisibility. [/quote]

I’m a Black woman. I’ve never been invisible — except occasionally to white women who push in front of me because they don’t “see” me.  Then, there are the times I might WISH to be invisible— when the catcalling gets ugly, or a random white woman (yes, it’s always a white woman) demands that I assist her in a store, even though I’m wearing a coat, carrying a bag, and the sales associates have uniforms.

Lol — and weary eye roll: Once I was walking home with both a full bag of groceries from Whole Foods AND pulling a suitcase with wheels when a white woman accosted me on the street, tried to hand me a set of keys, and demanded to know why I was late — because she had been impatiently waiting for someone to come to her home to do some sort of work for her.  No, white lady, I do not work for you.    In contrast, it’s usually a treat when people say nice things and acknowledge my existence in public on positive ways.

Oh, and OP, is your point about being “thin” perplexity that even in your “thinness” you’re still “invisible “?  Maybe check your assumptions. And your own prejudices.   I’m a Black women, neither young nor thin, and I’m quite visible in most settings.

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