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[quote=Anonymous] For my parents, it's mostly #4 and some #3.

They don't think they need help or assisted living 'yet'. Dad has advanced stage Parkinsons and Mom broke her hip last year when he fell on her. We are so far past 'yet'...but Mom thinks help means she's 'not capable'. Also there is denial of how advanced Dad's condition is.

Every time I am with them at a new dr (I cannot go to every visit but I try especially if it's parkinsons related or a new dr) they get asked if they have home health help. Just last week Mom told the Dr 'yes, my daughter' I said in alarm,' I work full time and commute 2 hrs a day!' Yes, I see them daily, but it's after work for a limited time-they are on their own all day. Note to self-mention that everytime, because Mom tells them otherwise.

As far as #3, that is a legit concern for many.  It's hard to navigate the system to get help that they may be eligible for. I was able to enroll my dad in the VA (he has a service related disability rating) but I had told my folks for years to do that-I finally had to just do it myself now that I have POA. But they're not actually using any home care benefits because they refuse.

I love my parents so much and am so grateful they are still with us but this has literally been the most stressful experience of my life. Like constant worry.[/quote]

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