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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents (mom, 76, and stepdad, 96) live alone at home and are doing well except need help with laundry, meal prep, day to day things like that. I think it would be helpful to have someone who could stay with my stepdad if my mom needs to go to the doctor or out for awhile. Stepdad is a veteran and I heard the VA offers services like this but couldn't really pin down what that is.

What kind of service is this that I would get them? [/quote]

So my dad is a veteran and has a disability rating (I do not know if you can get services if you are not enrolled in va healthcare). He was approved for 8 hours a week of respite care. Dad has end stage Parkinsons and Mom is his caregiver (and still recovering from breaking her hip caring for him). I arranged for this by speaking to his social worker at the va. He has already been declared 'incompetent'-it's their way of saying he's disabled. With this designation, the social worker arranged respite.

Here's the part you need to understand OP. My parents also are VERY resistant to outside help. I was SO excited for respite to start so Mom could have a little time to attend to her own health/therapies, grocery shop, whatever. The caregiver from the agency was so nice, but Mom only used it 3 times before cancelling it! I was SO UPSET. I'm still upset. OP, I hope your folks aren't like this but chances are they might be. It's incredibly hard and frustrating when you try your best to help and get shut down. Like another PP mentioned, I assume that there WILL be a health crisis at some point and then our hand will be forced.

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