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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son (a junior in high school, about to turn 17) has a pretty active social life.  He has neighborhood friends and school friends and plays sports and has his license.  Beginning sophomore year we've rarely seen him on weekend nights--he's out every Friday and Saturday night.  He just came home (for 5 minutes to change clothing) and I asked him how his day way and he wouldn't even engage with me.  His comment was "why are you bothering me?" Me "because I haven't seen you all day and wondered how you're doing". Him "well I haven't been wondering about you.  i've spent 17 years with you and I don't feel like spending time with you tonight."   He's not usually this grumpy but he's definitely making a major break from us recently.  He talks a lot about going away to college "I can't wait to get out of here."
There's nothing in particular that's led to this--we have a long-standing good relationship etc.  He's just very much ready to grow up and he's being a bit of a jerk in the process.  This stuff is hard.  It made me think--I really think the golden years of parenting boys are around 12-14. They're funny and cute and independent with many things but still want to spend time with you.

I guess there's no point to this except that this phase is hard for me.  Thankfully we have 2 other kids.  One is his twin sister and she actually spends a fair bit of time with us.  [/quote]

That's hard! Be careful not to make your daughter compensate for this loss you feel![/quote]

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