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[quote=Anonymous]My DH hates feeling wrong or facing a mistake and is super defensive. He brings history into every interaction as a way of deflecting his role in a current, challenging situation.

Here’s an example: last night he forgot to get something for a social event. I said “oh no. Can you go get it now and I’ll meet you there? And call them so they know we’ll be late?

Instead of saying oops, I can’t believe I forgot to get that, and calling them and just getting the thing, he instead went on a rant about how I was making it way too big of a deal just like I did about some random thing that I couldn’t even remember from the first week of August and it wasn’t his fault anyway. And then after the event he sulked and watched tv instead of helping with bedtime. When I called him out on that, he got even angrier and basically said that I shouldn’t ask anything of him ever again if “that’s how you’re going to be”.

This isn’t the first time this has happened and I feel like I have to ignore every mishap or tiptoe around him and soothe his ego when a mishap does happen. I’m hard on myself and a self-deprecating person, so the idea of not owning a mistake and feeling kind of bad about it is foreign to me. I recognize we’re different but I think he takes it too far.

I’d like to be able to read a little and understand why he does this and what part I play in it, but I don’t know what I would even describe it as. Can anyone help?[/quote]

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