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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents have been educated about CPR yes. Everybody seems to believe it’s a lack of knowledge and so it keeps being explained to them again and again.

But they philosophically want everything possible all the way to the end. They want to maximize life. As in literal life, drawing breath, not quality of life. No one can believe that this is their choice but it is their choice. I know it may be not the norm but if we are giving people choices and saying we will respect their wishes it feels like there should be some support for their actual choice. And with the elderly, I just feel like there isn’t that kind of support for their choice in the way that there is support for hospice.[/quote]

Op, from what you are saying about them -prioritizing actual breath over freedom and quality of life - it sounds like the best way for them to achieve this goal is a nursing home, which is a medical environment with the prime goal of life (safety) over freedom and independence.  If they want to stay at home, they are prioritizing freedom over health and creating an impossible problem for you to solve.  Are you up for this task, op?  My parents are insisting on staying in their home and I have accepted that it will be imperfect medical care and eventually quite "unsafe" for them, but that is their choice and problem, not mine.  And their real priority is independence and control over their own lives.  So at least the values match up.[/quote]

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