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[quote=Anonymous]both spouses are second gen Americans and come from the same "home" country. the male spouse has gone several times to home country. the female spouse has not, mostly b/c kids have been too young and due to work-constraints. one spouse has a wedding of a cousin the wk of christmas/new years. that spouse would very much like to attend the wedding and catch up with family. that week is known to be particularly cold in the country they are from. there is no central heating, no hot water pumps for hot showers, they only have space hearters so bedrooms might be warm, but bathrooms and common areas are cold. etc. none of the families we would propose to stay with has young kinds, aka, there will be no swing sets or toys or playmates for our kids. this is also a country of some unrest and we would prefer not to take the kids out too frequently - we would all be easy "targets" given our american accents. there are frequent power outages and gas shortages.

so, the spouse whose family wedding it ISN'T doesn't want to take the kids (3 and 2) to this country at this time due to these problems.

the spouse with the family wedding wants to go anyways to see their family. this trip will suck up all vacation days for this spouse for the next 6-8 months. so, this nuclear family will have no trips in the next year because one spouse wants to travel.

what would you do?

spouse with family wedding should get to go, no matter what?
spouse with no relation to wedding should suck it up and deal and go?
spouse with family wedding should sacrifice wedding b/c it will cause loss to their nuclear family vacation time?[/quote]

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