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[quote=Anonymous]What's everyone's take on this? Was discussing it with my DH last night because we're going to a wedding soon which will likely also be attended by a couple we were friends with several years ago but fell out with because we found out the wife had been gossiping about me/us. We never had a fight or anything, but after I found out what she was saying, I stopped inviting them over and did a slow fade on her (at first just turning down invites but eventually just not even responding to texts). I don't like gossips and the stuff she was saying felt very invasive and unkind (comments about my marriage, my kids, and my intelligence -- just off limits stuff in my book).

I told DH I would just ignore them all night but he thinks that will stir up more drama. He thinks we should be smiley and friendly with them. I get his point -- doing this is definitely "taking the high ground" and is more likely to make it look like we don't care about them at all, which is good. But honestly, I'm not sure I'm capable of that. I can see myself interacting with them but I don't think I could fake friendliness.

What says DCUM? Cold shoulder or fake friendly? And if the latter, how best to accomplish it when you really don't feel it?[/quote]

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