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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]TBH,[b] this kind of behavior was an indication that my ADHD kid needed another med that addressed mood issues. [/b] Getting that really helped.

I also learned to stop reacting emotionally in kind. And, I would quietly but firmly draw the line about behavior - “hey, I know you’re upset, but it’s not OK to yell at me (or fill in the blank…. call me names, slam doors, etc.), I don’t do that to you.”

Sometimes I think the anger is part of an unconscious “best defense is a good offense” pattern. In other words, they feel like that forgotten homework is going to make you angry or frustrated and get them in trouble or have a punitive consequence.  Things got better when I stopped getting frustrated and punishing and instead switched to reflective problem-solving.  What caused the 0, what can kid do to improve having the clothes they want, etc.  Maybe setting out clothes for next day is the answer and, with agreement, parent can prompt that until it’s a habit. [/quote]

My child has a different diagnosis, but he needs a mood stabilizer. Without one, he can't function at home at all.

Family therapy was a game changer for us too, in combination with finally getting the right meds.[/quote]

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