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[quote=Anonymous]My spouse hates her stressful job and is getting depressed.  I love my very flexible job and fell guilty about it.

I have encouraged her to look for other jobs but she’s super busy at work and feels like it’s impossible to carve out the time and that she’s only qualified to do things that are similar to her current job that she hates.

Every once in a while she brings up the idea of quitting and taking some time off to reevaluate.  I’m theoretically in favor of this, but it makes me nervous.  We are both in our early 50s and make similar amounts.  Our health insurance is currently through her job and while we could switch to my benefits, her benefits are much much better.  Plus, in this economy and at our ages, I worry that it could take a really long time to find something new/better and would get harder and harder over time, making her more depressed.

We could down-scale our lives and make it work on just my income, but I’m really worried about her mental health/pride—she’s a natural worker bee.

On the other hand, I feel like she’s looking for me to give her permission to quit and I don’t want to be responsible for keeping her in a job she hates.   She feels like she’s missing our kid’s childhood because she works a ton.

We are a same sex couple, which isn’t super relevant to my question but I don’t want anyone to overlay gender stuff onto this issue. [/quote]

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